SHAGME.COM

Posted on 19. Sep, 2011 by in Missy, My World

shagme.com,indian matrimonials, dating websites, internet dating,missy d,missyd,missydeeOMG!!!! OMG!!! OMG!!!!

Is it me or has the whole world gone mad??? I mean seriously, what is going on? I don’t think it’s me, as I do not encourage such behaviour, but I need to know!

I like many of you am a single looking for that partner. I am not going to say ‘perfect partner’, cause I have learnt the hard way that nothing is perfect in this world. I’m afraid to say that I truly was married to my radio career which was always priority for me, I have left it a tad bit too late. I loved my job and life for a very long time and didn’t feel the need for anything else in my life.

Plus without trying to sound all smarmy, I was always inundated with offers from my fans, but I have never ever mixed business with pleasure. I didn’t want to get involved with someone who wanted me as the radio personality that they heard on radio, but wanted somebody to want me just for me and not what I do. Do you know what I mean? So therefore I never found as everyone just wanted me and knew me as Missy D the radio presenter.

More recently I have decided that it’s maybe time to settle down. My Mum is way past even mentioning it to me now as she is just fed up, and has left me to my own devices. Bless her she did the typical samosa and chat in the garden introductions, but I didn’t quite click with them. Plus at that age, I wanted to live life and become something. I certainly did that! But unfortunately due to that put my other part of my life on hold.

So I have taken it into my own hands to try and find someone and the avenue that I took has been internet dating. I have signed up to many Asian and non-Asian websites. I have added lots of singles apps on my I-Phone, and my oh my has it been interesting!!

I am a serious punter on these things and am looking as a serious candidate, but can I just say that there is a reason I titled this post ‘ShagME.com’. Ladies and Gentleman, please remember that I am speaking ONLY of my personal experiences. I am sure there are lots of you that have been on these things and found true love and marriage (and if you have I would love to hear from you below). But MY experience on these things have been shameful to say the least.

I’m thinking if this is what the state of affairs is in today’s world when Asians are looking to settle down on internet sites then it really is awful and disgraceful. I am not making any of this up and not at all over-exaggerating but I do not get this.

I have been very open-minded on these sites and if somebody sends me an message or wants to chat on the chat thing, then I have no qualms in doing that. If it goes well then I even pass on my number and start talking on the phone or even on text. But very soon it starts off as one thing and turns into another.

shagme.com,indian matrimonials, dating websites, internet dating,missy d,missyd,missydeeFor example, the other day I was on a dating app in my I-phone and was asked if I would like to come and have some adult fun in Slough. I swiftly declined the offer, but that didn’t stop the man being persistent, who claimed I needed to loosen up as that’s what life is all about. No strings attached is what he called it!

On another occasion I was messaged on a website by a nice enough guy from Birmingham. He immediately asked me to go out on a date with him as he felt that it would be a waste of time if we chatted for ages and then met and didn’t like each other. I thought that was fair enough, so I met him within a week of talking to him as I suppose he had a point. A day after that he started sending me very bizarre texts about being lonely and everyone needs love. Then he was very eager to meet me again, and in his own words “so that he could snog my face off and also thought I had a nice pair”!!! I was mortified. The last bit he actually said on the phone to my face. It was very besharam of him and I was gobsmacked!

Oh yes there’s that dude who got really abusive on my phone, leaving messages because I had accepted him (cause I thought that’s what you do) but was not prepared to talk to him 24/7 and therefore I was a ***** ****** *****!!!

Not forgetting the one who I was on chat with on one website, who claimed to be a gentleman. Now by this time I had become very wise and am getting very fed up of the shagme.com mentality that I am getting. So I chat to him and he was in Northampton. I was in London at the time. I said to him let’s meet. He asked when and I thought let’s see how long it takes. So to cut a long story short I offered to meet him on Southall Broadway at the Glassy Junction at midnight. At first he declined my offer. Believe it or not 10 minutes later he was ready to get into his car and meet for ‘some fun’. Did I go? Well I’m sure you can answer that for yourself. The poor guy!!

It’s like every damm time. Each time these guys contact you making out as if they are decent blokes looking for a decent relationship then just a few days or weeks in they all go down the shagme.com route!! I mean what is going on?? It’s seriously a huge cause for concern. I mean I can totally handle myself in these kind of circumstances, but can you imagine the poor innocent girls and women that go on here and are offered the same? And trust me I am talking about many Indian, Asian, South-Indian dating and matrimonial sites. Plus the usual mainstream dating sites that are advertised everywhere!

So as you see I have plenty of examples and plenty more from where they come from, but do not want to go on as I think you get my drift. Plus this is a family show ;O). But what I want to know is, is this all the men out there come on to these sites for?? I swear to you I have not come across one decent bloke AT ALL. Each and every one of them within a certain time just go on to their favourite subject SHAGME.COM

shagme.com,indian matrimonials, dating websites, internet dating,missy d,missyd,missydeeIt is absolutely ridiculous and shameful. So therefore I have decided to stay single for the rest of my life until I do come across that one man who is not so nasty and crude. I know you will say there are some out there. Some fo you might say that really IS what men ONLY think about!!  There might be some decent ones, but I have never ever come across one. I do think it is what goes on in this day and age, and maybe I sound old. But in the good old days there were so many REAL Gentlemen. Nowadays it seems like it’s just all about one thing for guys which is really disappointing. It really is…..

But having said, that I do feel that the mentality of girls nowadays is very different to women from my generation. I’m thinking maybe it may be because girls are freely offering themselves readily, easily and quickly that these guys expect it and know no different? So maybe it’s because of these girls that make themselves readily available on tap that spoil it for the rest of us decent folk!

What do you think? I would so love to know?

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55 Responses to “SHAGME.COM”

  1. Shazia

    19. Sep, 2011

    Oh my God Missy! I can sooooo relate to this!!! You go on looking for husband material, and all you ever get are boys trying it on. I am soooo fed up of it all. Does anybody know where all the good guys have gone?! Lol

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    • Missy Dee

      19. Sep, 2011

      Glad you can Shazia!!! Thank the Lord Im not the only one who feels that way.I really do not think there are any at al…well not any gentlemen! Although I was obsessed with watching Mel B and Stephan yesterday and all day and he was lovely husband material…and very cute!!!

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    • galaxy

      30. Sep, 2011

      im single shazia.

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  2. Kiran

    19. Sep, 2011

    TBH I’ve had enuf! Nothing but pervs out there Missy x

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    • Missy Dee

      19. Sep, 2011

      LOL Kiran….you had the same experience too?? Now I know Im not going mad!!! Anyone else had the same? Dont worry about giving your identity I will keep that anonymous!!

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  3. Bal

    19. Sep, 2011

    Hahahahaha!!! Tell it how it is Misseeeeeeeee!!!!

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    • Missy Dee

      19. Sep, 2011

      Bal I am trying!!! You know me I cant keep it in me ‘tid’ like me friend Tina says!! What is making me laugh even more is that my stats showing tons of people reading this but not speaking up and speaking their minds…dont be scared! Just say it how it is na?

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  4. Rishi Kapoor

    19. Sep, 2011

    Hey Missy, I so feel for you. I was on the online matimonial sites with a serious outlook to find my ideal partner… These days I must say “some” women are similar to guys out there. I had a woman chat to me online for about an hour, she had just separated from her husband – yes husband! had kids and was re-assuring me, she is filing for a divorce 1 day after she moved from her husband she was on the internet. I am no fool! These people out there need to sort themselves out

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    • Missy Dee

      19. Sep, 2011

      OMG!!! See I knew it….I wasnt just trying to attack the guys but can only talk from my perspective. Infact one guy I met on one of these sites had a whole book-ful od horror stories about the mad women he has met! Needless to say it didnt go further. This one actually was half decent but then became possesive!!! Doh. You cant win lol. So Rishi do you think there is any hop at all for anyone out there?? Do you know of any success stories?? Its mental…I mean where do you look? I think Im gonna have to do a ‘BUY MISSY’ TV Show!!!

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  5. Waqas

    20. Sep, 2011

    Missy, you’re pretty funny. I think you’re just waiting to meet a guy like me! Unfortunately, I’m married lol.

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Waqas that is what Im told although I try not to be!!! You see…all the good ones are tajen and Im left to sift out the riff raff!!

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  6. safirah

    20. Sep, 2011

    Use to be Wine, Dine n then try to your luck to be a Swine now it’s be a Swine, possible Dine well just forget the Wine!!!

    You are looking for a partner what about those who are not! in the name of becoming a friend say on FB , They manipulate their way in and then drop the bombshell… Do I ask them what size their private parts are??? what gives them the right to ask me such question not even a decent hello, namaste or salaam..

    Missy D you are a great writer and enjoyed the read, I’m afraid we live in a disposable society where things are easily replaced even emotions sadly…

    I worry for my children but hang on in there inshallah MR MISSSY D is out there!! JUST need sabat.x.

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Hey Safirah. You are absolutely right!!! Men in today’s world are not the real deal. And OMG…you too?? Yep I’ve had lots of those as well. Imagine I’ve got 7000 on 2 Facebook accounts and 3000 waiting to get on. Imagine the ‘ganth’ that I get. It’s disgusting and yes they just get straight to the point!

      Tbh I’m not so bothered now and am content and resigned to the fact that I’ll probably be single forever which is fine. But yes it’s very worrying for future generations. It’s a serious issue.

      Shukran Safirah. I do try x

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  7. Apinder Sahni

    20. Sep, 2011

    Greetings MissyD.

    There’s a lesson to be learnt here I guess. Any venue or internet site that hosts a huge community of men and women is but only an opportunity for some to “pick up girls/boys”.

    There is probably no time to do this and I know this is a family show, but would it not be interesting for someone to come up with a line graph showing:

    a) Number of successful marriages
    b) against….number of dates
    c) against…number of successful Sh**s (sorry).

    Some trend analysis required here.

    Not saying everyone is like this, but imagine, a dude/dudette constantly telling their parents they are going out to meet a prospetive partner, no objection from the parents because they are aware that the outcome could end up with a happy ending, yet the they get free reign to meet up with other people and get up to no good. Also, they don’t need to hide it, just come back and say “it didn’t work out, it didn’t CLICK”.

    There have always been “dodgy” people out there with a one track mind, first you used to see them at day-timers and then clubs, trying to get lucky, now they have online matromonials to work to get their dirty mits in there….

    Apologies if I said anything out of line.

    D.

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Hi Apinder

      Firstly dont apologise although I do try to make this a ‘family show’ there are times that I feel I have to deal with the ‘real’ subjects and will just have to say it how it is in reality. So dont feel you have to hole back at all…

      I would like to see that graph as it would be very interesting and yes isnt that a scary point. But then maybe not. Maybe its the girls too that are using this as an oppurtunity to show the world/friends/parents/family that they are trying their best to do this the righteous way but infact they too are using this as a free reign to have a free shag and have no qualms about it. I can only speak from my experiences and I know that many girls do not have a problem having promiscious sex and love the no strings attached.

      So yes I see what you saying that it has evolved from poachers at clubs and daytimers…but tbh I think its a generation peoblem…but also have found the older (our generation) ones have followed suit and thought oh well **** it if you cant beat them join them and taken the get as many shags as you can offers….

      Its not just the guys (I mean what red blooded man wouldnt take up the offers unless they are gay) its definately got something to do with the girls too….and unfortunately as they have now made the majority the monority cant get a look in edgways…..

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      • Apinder Sahni

        20. Sep, 2011

        Missyd,

        Do you know why the older “gents” are now hoping into differernt beds these days? because they take one look at their wives, or auntie’s to us, who have started wearing skin tight clothes and skimpy tops. If you have ever been to a “kitty party”, you will know what I mean.

        I am not blaming those women as I think finally they are living out their fantasy’s after years of kids and family, but in it all they and their husbands have forgotten their roots. Sorry to mention this term, but there’s a whole lot of “Mutton Dressed as Lamb” out there.

        Quick example:

        Apinder to Auntie > Sat Sri Akhal Auntie ji
        Auntie to Apinder > Hi there Beta.

        While she checks her reflection in the fear that I have just added another 20 years on her because I called her Auntie Ji.

        Quick Example No.2

        Apinder to Uncle > Uncle ji, thada ke haal hey
        Uncle to Apinder > Sorry Beta I don’t do Punjabi, but fine anyway.

        I remained zip lipped!

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        • Missy Dee

          20. Sep, 2011

          Ohhhh Apinder the whole older generation – meaning the auntie and uncle ji’s is a whole new topic. And will definately be covering that. And those oh so respectable kitty parties!!!!

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  8. Kaz

    20. Sep, 2011

    Hey Missy

    Im a male on a certain website for muslim singles and I can say that its not only the men on the site that have the shagme.com lifestyle.

    Now im no bollywood star when it comes to looks, but the amount of girls who have asked ‘how big is it then’ or that they are after a relationship is unreal. The true test for me is to ask when they would like parental involvement – that usually shows if they are serious for marrige or just after some fun!!

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Kaz. Agreed. That’s exactly what I said above. I reckon the girls play a bigger hand in it than the boys. I mean the girls who ask ‘how big you are’ are not few and far between. I reckon there’s loads of them. It’s so wrong

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  9. Dhilon

    20. Sep, 2011

    Technology has made it easy to say what ever you want and hide behind your screen. How many guys would actually say that to your face if dating was still the conventially way.. they would get more slaps then acceptances on their proposal.. which in tern means somebody looking to just meet up and see what the future holds has to have a thicker skin and become impervious to those with one thing on their mind..

    Its better to stay away from all date sites as people are looking for one thing and on top of that could be married or seeing someone else too..

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Dhillon the guy in the article told me I ‘had a nice pair’ to my face over the phone. Couldn’t understand my shock. And then proceeded to ask when we are going to meet!!!!!

      So if I’ve exhausted the introductions through family and friends. And dating sites should be avoided. I’d be dammed if I go speed dating. Sooo where would you recommend I find. But then again aren’t I better off single than have the riff raff???

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  10. Gurdip(not real name)

    20. Sep, 2011

    OK..I am a guy who is married and use’s the famous asian dating website that sounds the same as shagme.com…To basically find women on there and shag them.

    I have been doing this on and off for years… but the sad thing is, it does work. Yes there are married women on there as well.. as well as married men..so it kind of works both ways

    You may say how can you meet women and shag them and leave them. But I don’t do that, I am not into 1 night stands..unless the woman is up for it… you see a lot of women on these sites..are for the better word..’past it’ no joke…you have divorcess…or girls who had bf till mid 20s then it didnt work out for some reason. and they are used to having some..if you catch my drift… you have singles in their 30s…

    SO when I get a number..by talking to them..you can usually tell if they are promiscuous..easy way to find out is..text her at night when she in bed and ask what she’s wearing..ul get following answers:

    – How dare you now fcuk off
    – Wldn’t u like to know
    – I am weaaring jus my knickers

    If you get the last 2 answers..ur ‘in’..then u can ask more questions like I am in my boxers wana join me…just get the ball rolling..remember not all women are the same…they are when it comes to getting the worked up..but all have different ways of getting there…

    SO then u spend everyday chatting to her..texting her etc

    then u exchange fotos..i’m not a very good looking guy..but gals like personality so she oversees that

    Tell her she has gorgeous lips and you want to kiss them when u see her…you will get similar answers to the what you wearing bed question…

    – OK
    – Fcuk off
    – We will see (usually means yes, she just wana make out shes a tart)

    Now when you do meet remember she likes you..and it’s up to you to pursue it..dont’t mean she’s gona jump in bed with u..well some do..but its how u play the getting to know them game…

    This is the honest truth…of examples of women I have met…

    I said lets get a hotel to chill in..she said ok..
    SHe said u know u aint gona shag me?
    I said ”of course I just wana know u better

    GOt in hotel..2 hours later had her naked and shagging her

    WHen a woman agrees to get a hotel..she WILL shag u

    They just dont wana admit it..espically asian women..they dont wana get a rep

    Met 1 gal…

    1st date – snog and play
    2nd date – snog and play in car
    3rd date – Got hotel and shag

    I have loads of stories..could go on forever..

    I wanted to give a mans viewswho uses these sites for the wrong reason…

    Not all ladies shag..persistent is they key…

    MIssy D u accepted my profile, but we never chatted.. x

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Gurdip. Love your honesty!! Thank you for all of that. I can’t say I’m shocked. Was hoping someone with balls would come forward and speak the truth.

      Lol did I? Tbh I’ve not mastered the art of these sites. I don’t know if to say ‘Thank the Lord’ I never talked to you otherwize you sooo would have got Answer A if you’d text me late at night and asked me what I was wearing!!!! Oh my.

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  11. Shaina

    20. Sep, 2011

    Missy, Seriously so glad your blogging about this, it is a serious issue, Guys out there have forgotton about the decency of how to treat a lady, first of all, guys have no shame in just getting to the point these days, they will make rude gestures, comment on the size of your lady humps! i mean wtf!

    I was on the dating scene few years back, I met a guy through a well known dating website, I met him and had a fantastic night, but when he left at the end of the night he sent text messages all through the night telling me about what he did with another man!!! I mean why would you do that? does he find it funny?

    lets face it guys just want to cut the small talk and get down to business. Also, the other thing is guys have no shame in letting the ladies pay for dinner either , I am an old fashioned girl, with my own indepency, job, car own home…but still men should know how to treat a women! I have recently become single after 2 years (met my x on FB) he was one of the nice guys unfortunetly not ready for marriage and I am becoming impatient. The thought of going back into the dating world after 2.5 years away is dreading me, because I remember how bad it was the last time round. I completely understand Missy, most of my friends are approaching 40s, They have accepted that they will be single forever…but I guess we all want the fairytale even though we deny it. but is a girl suppose to do…! have all the decent men really been taken?

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Shaina thank you. I just think it’s about tome somebody took the bull by the horns and just openly talked. Makes me laugh that people say that they don’t do/talk about this that and the other being Asian yet do more than westerners at times.

      Lady humps?? Lol. Omg you had my crying with laughter. I love it.

      But yes agreed I’m old fashioned too and was mortified at once having gone on a date through the family. He asked if I was hungry. I said no. So he ordered himself dinner!!! Lol then I asked if he would like a drink. He said yes. And I went to the bar and got them. I was livid. Felt like chucking his beer all over him. I’m too independent and self sufficient. But yes it’s all about good old fashioned dating. Which done exist.

      Yes I’m afraid I also know many 40 plus. And if I’m honest I too would rather be single if and until I do find that pure gentleman!!!!

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  12. Waqas

    20. Sep, 2011

    I blame Hollywood and Bollywood. They make every relationship seem like a fairytale:

    1) Boy meets girl.
    2) They fall in love.
    3) Have a few dilemmas and obstacles to deal with.
    4) All gets sorted, and they live happily ever after!

    True relationships never work like that!! A lot more dilemmas and obstacles in real life, and a lot more difficult to really meet ‘The One’. But then, that wouldn’t pack out cinemas, would it!!

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  13. Apinder Sahni

    20. Sep, 2011

    Comment: have all the decent men really been taken? >Yes< J/K. Loved Gurdip's response, balls of steel and honest, however playing outside of marriage is another hot topic, it's a flipping NO NO for me....but each to their own I guess 🙂 Problem with matrimonial sites is that yes they do exactly what they say on the tin, help you find a partner (or f*** buddy). However, should you not be looking for a companion first? If you want to buy a car, then wedding websites are fine, but you don't have full service history or how many previous owners. If you want to find a companion, then networking is the best way, charity events, coffee shops, library.....take a risk at finding someone there, you never know, let fate play it's hand. Go to your favourite places and events and you will obviously find someone like-minded, otherwise they wouldn't be there in the first place. Asian Theatre, yes, join Rifco Arts mailing list and open yourself up to a whole new community. You're a well known radio presenter, attending social events will be second nature, don't waste your time on wedding websites...... I met my wife via the traditional route, I was lucky, I hit the jackpot indeed. It ain't like the old days now!

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  14. Gurdip(not real name)

    20. Sep, 2011

    Thanks for the honest reply guys, I just felt like letting this off my chest!!

    I guess Missy what it is..you get some women who do give it up on 1 or 2 or even 3rd date..and then us men think you are all like that…so we have the same questions for each women we chat to!!

    I have often asked ‘silly’ questiosn way too early.. and the gal tells me to get lost..

    I know if I treated every gal I met with respect etc..and took things slowly we wld end up in bed.

    But frankly I dont have the time or money for that!!

    But seriously I am surprised how many gals give it up on 1st date..maybe not full blown s4ag but you can so other things..like kissing…etc… It really does shock me sometimes

    Cinema is usually the best thing..all dark and u can snog away…

    I am the type of guy who could never go up to a girl and ask her out….but email etc is fine..

    And I swear to this day I still don’t now if a girl likes me if I just see her in public…it’s weird..

    My mate said if I was famous and got caught I would be like Tiger woods!!!

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      I’m so pleased I’m not the only one perplexed by all of this Gurdip. But my thing and equation is this…why do Guys even wait till date 1 or correspondent 3 to see if they can start talking crudely and dirty?? I mean do they think if the girl hasnt got down the how big is your **** route that she would be interested in such crap? Isn’t this the kind of thing that is very intimate and will naturally come along once a couple have really got to know each other and are comfortable? Certainly not after a few chats/texts/emails. I mean at times the guy doesn’t even know much more than the girls name (if he remembers) and nothing much more but is happy to offer much more!!!!!

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Just got this on my Facebook inbox and was an interesting point….the guy wants to stay anonymous and that is fine by me….

      Anon says:

      I read ur article. I found it quite funny. You want my honest opinion though? Accepting offers to meet guys straight away gives an impression of easy to a guy who is looking for ‘fun’ as you described it. You need to explain what your looking for and then tell them to do 1 if they aint looking for the same. Your better going onto the des pardes / shaadi.com if you want like minded people. LOL

      But i did like the article, 90% of men are like that! LOL. Let me tell you one fact though… 100% of men want to eventually settle down, so reallistically, most of this macho talk? but they are all scouting for their dream girl at the same time!!!

      My REPLY was:

      Thank you!! But thing is it is Shaadi and Des Pardes!! Some gora sites too but man its rdidculous. Have ot say that I never meet someone straight away but didnt want to waste time on chatting for months then meeting as I was fed up of that too…and so thought good idea. He was so shy and decent at the date and then after…OH BOY! LOL

      Anyway Ive given up…but have discovered its the loose girls that have spoilt it for decent eople like me. Yes agreed I reckon 99.9% of them are like that….

      But interesting to know that eventually they do…but would I want used goods??? NOPE!!!

      Anon says:

      You dont want used goods? then the problem is YOU DONT WANT MEN. You aint gonna find a virgin male lol

      My Reply:

      I know I wont find a virgin…but am also not wanting to marry a man that has slept with a variety of partners…..I dont mind if he was in a long term and it never worked out…but on my blog some bloke is saying that he uses sites to go fishing for bait!!
      ..

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  15. Asn

    20. Sep, 2011

    Because of this we organise events where everyone is interviewed before they can buy a ticket…

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      ASN…I understand that you may do that but my initial chat has always been cool its always afterwards that these guys get fresh and frisky! How do you stop that? Good on you for taking the precautions but Im telling you 9 times out of 10 they will be on best behaviour at interview and initial meeting then they will try their luck!!!

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  16. 411

    20. Sep, 2011

    Hi Missy!!

    I totally understand everything you have written down!

    It’s totally disgusting, especially if you are a genuine person looking for a life partner. I was in a similar situation a year ago. I joined a few Asian Dating Websites, and the response I was getting was either boys old enough to be my sons or dirty old men happily married!!!

    Also as soon as you start talking to someone it’s about having fun!!! And like you mentioned no strings attached. First conversation is all about which hotel to book!!

    Guess I spoke to so many to figure out which were genuine n which weren’t.

    It really is off putting especially if you are seriously looking for a partner. I perservered and I did finally meet the most amazing,genuine,honest,loveable guy ever!!!
    We are engaged and going to get married next year. There are a few gentlemen left out there, you just got to keep on at it and judge who the players are.

    Don’t give up!!!!

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Hey 411….well Im very happy to know that there has been A success story out of this.

      You too huh? Well Im happy you have the patience luv but Im telling you Ive been through soooo many of them that I no longer have the will or want to keep on sifting through them. I have never ever come across a gentleman. I mean a real one. I do think they are very few and far between though. And what are your thoughts on maybe it has been the girls that have made things worse making the guys think that 99% are an easy *****???

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  17. Asn

    20. Sep, 2011

    Maybe! We have had 9 success matches and we have our 2nd event in December. We have declined so many ppl to attend because you know what they want! Majority are men… Our events are ALL DAY so there’s no hiding.. 8 hours of meeting… Not your usual 2 hours of speed dating

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Now that sounds like a good time to spend with someone before you decide you want to take it further. I guess that keeps time-wasters away. Good concept! Well done to you x

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  18. Asn

    20. Sep, 2011

    Maybe you can be our host for the day?

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      LOL Maybe…now that would be interesting…I teach 30 kids in a class all day so Im sure a class full of flirtateous adults would be a challenge!

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  19. Vin

    20. Sep, 2011

    I can see where your coming from Missy (I have come across these idiots as well) but don’t give up!!! I must say I am one of the fortunate ones I found my Mr Right on a matrimonial site and we are now happily married. So there are some decent guys out there. Keep looking!!

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  20. 411

    20. Sep, 2011

    Posted a comment on here, but didn’t come up???

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      ohh Rita this is the only one I see? Can you re-post and Ill approve?? @Vin- wahay another happy ending!! Good for you…unfortunately for me I have too many factors that make it even harder for me…but very happy for you xxx

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    • Missy Dee

      20. Sep, 2011

      Actually Rita I approved it above!!! Its the one with 411 x

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  21. 411

    20. Sep, 2011

    Hi missy

    Dont give up!!!! There is a hot sticky jelebi out there for u!!!

    Some girls do give that easy impression, but not all of us are “easy” we are genuine and looking for a life partner.
    I think it’s how a girls been bought up, I have a teenage daughter whos at Uni n trust me she wont give a guy the time of the day.

    Good luck n keep looking!!!

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  22. 411

    20. Sep, 2011

    Sorry missy, I saw ur reply :-))

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  23. Gurdip(not real name)

    21. Sep, 2011

    I bet most men that try the ‘u wana have fun’ line are already married or with someone.

    Because if they are seriously looking to settle down then they wouldn’t be naughty straight away…

    I have a cuz who is in his early 20s..and he is a decent guy…but evebn he says girls his age are all slappers!!

    And will find it hard to find some1 to get married too…

    The younger generation are all becoming like goriya…is this the case?/

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    • Missy Dee

      21. Sep, 2011

      Calling them ‘slappers’ might be a bit harsh Gurdip.

      And not being at all disrespectful but you’re on shaadi cause you’re single tight and you yourself are trying to lure in the ‘easy’ ones right? So I think it’s not just married men. But both men and women trying their luck!!! And I suppose some women might think on the flipside ‘if men can do it then we can too?’

      What do you think??

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  24. Gurdip(not real name)

    21. Sep, 2011

    Yes I think women are thinking like that now…I don’t blame them…weird thing happend the other day..was with 1 og my dates..walked in a localish pub and saw my aunty…i don’t know who she was with..but I walked out quite sharpish…no I was wondering was she with a ‘date’ and thought oh S41t!!

    But I was reading your blog..and hand on heart a brum gal asked me once..how big is ur dhanda!!

    I didnt need anymore clues..good hotel booked and met up next few days..bad thing is this was 6 months into my marriage!!

    Talking of mariage..people make out they are 100% happy and satisfied…but they never really are…and asian gals sa in their 30s and 40s lie soo much..bout their happines and s3x life (well I guess its not something u blag about)..but the whole butterflies experince does go out of the window..after a few weeks, months or years

    One sikh lady I was chastting to..made out she had an amazing time with her hubby…few months later she got divorced and she said he used to beat her up…few weeks later I was fcuking her..and i didnt need any lines…i joke we talked..normally..and then after convo..few mins later she text me saying ”so u wana fcuk me!’

    SOmetimes I cannot believe my luck..like I said before..ladies that have had some are gagging for it…

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    • Missy Dee

      21. Sep, 2011

      Oh my Gurdip. Again thank you for your honesty!!! So let me get this right? You are a married man but still you are on Shaadi looking for these women?

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  25. Binay

    21. Sep, 2011

    Let me flip this one just abit.

    Not long ago I was talking to a friend who was looking for marriage and meet a guy through family introductions. Cut a long story short she went out with the guy on a few dates, he seemed alright and fit the relevant credentials, however she wanted explore if he had any skills in the bedroom before she could say yes to marriage.

    So one night out in London town she decided tonight’s the night! After a few drinks she took the guy back to a hotel to see if he could hit the spot? 

    According to my friend the guy was useless, she couldn’t feel anything and to make matters worse his turban fell off, he’s juraar came undone. It was a disaster basically and she told the guy laterz!

    I really questioned her on this and said aren’t you going over the top with this? Her response was ” I’m gonna spend rest of my life with this guy and he needs to be able to satisfy me sexual too”.

    In addition to this she told me about a friend with similar views.

    Once again this women wanted to know if the guy was romantic and if had any skills in the bedroom. So same format book a hotel and see what’s happens?

    This guy hit the spot accompanied by romance. After finishing making love the guy decides to run her a bubble bath and light some candles. The funny thing is the guy quickly ran to shop, came back unable to get bubble bath liquid, instead the guy filled the bath with fairy liquid, used to wash dishes and the bird agreed to marry him.

    I find this behaviour to be quite the norm these days!

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  26. Binay

    21. Sep, 2011

    Let me flip this one just abit.

    Not long ago I was talking to a friend who was looking for marriage and meet a guy through family introductions. Cut a long story short she went out with the guy on a few dates, he seemed alright and fit the relevant credentials, however she wanted explore if he had any skills in the bedroom before she could say yes to marriage.

    So one night out in London town she decided tonight’s the night! After a few drinks she took the guy back to a hotel to see if he could hit the spot? 

    According to my friend the guy was useless, she couldn’t feel anything and to make matters worse his turban fell off, he’s juraar came undone. It was a disaster basically and she told the guy laterz!

    I really questioned her on this and said aren’t you going over the top with this? Her response was ” I’m gonna spend rest of my life with this guy and he needs to be able to satisfy me sexual too”.

    In addition to this she told me about a friend with similar views.

    Once again this women wanted to know if the guy was romantic and if had any skills in the bedroom. So same format book a hotel and see what’s happens?

    This guy hit the spot accompanied by romance. After finishing making love the guy decides to run her a bubble bath and light some candles. The funny thing is the guy quickly ran to shop, came back unable to get bubble bath liquid, instead the guy filled the bath with fairy liquid, used to wash dishes and the bird agreed to marry him.

    I find this behaviour to be quite the norm these days!

    My advice to be people who be straight up and ask, ARE YOU LOOKING FOR A MEANINGFUL PURSUIT OR A
    DISPOSABLE PLEASURE?

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    • Missy Dee

      21. Sep, 2011

      Binay thank you for that…but I’m sorry what would the world be coming to if everyone tried and tested all day long? If everyone did that then the world would be a very sorry place full of diseases and really wont go on…..

      I can clearly see from all these fabulous responses that in this day and age the morals that our parents held and generations before them have gone out of the window. I mean say if you dated 15-20 guys – would you sleep with all of them to test them? I understand that we all live today in a world of equality and women fought and gave up lives to ensure that women are on par to men. But I don’t buy it. I do not understand it and is not the kind of life that I encourage. But then I have always been an old fashioned old so and so….and really dont fit in with what my friends and their friends live life or think what life should be all about. I just think both these men and women need to think about what they are doing.

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  27. Binay

    21. Sep, 2011

    Missy

    I totally agree with your views and morals. I advocate what our parents taught us about respect and dignity alongside upholding family values. Some people tell me I need to move with the times.

    I’m a man well who’s well in tune with the 21st century and very open minded. Morals and values are a constant and never change and nor will they ever become outdated.

    And as for all these who fuck around, its often them who settle down and then want to preach to others or say I’ve lived my life! Then when they have kids its bites them on they’re arse when their daughters start behaving like hookers. 

    Also what about those poor kids who are born to a mother who used to be a slapper? The poor kids gonna get ripped in years to because you can’t stop people talking.

    As for the guys out there; 

    Brothers think about what your doing with someones sister or daughter? 

    Would you like if someone dissed and humiliated your sister for a moments pleasure?

    Missy People nowadays are caught up in the moment, opposed to thinking ahead about consequences in the future let alone STD’s, abortion, reputation damage etc.

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  28. Gurdip(not real name)

    22. Sep, 2011

    Binay you talk great sense and you as well Missy.

    You see say 15 years ago, a girl or boy had a guarntee that they were decent people…but that is not the case anymore..I mean people dn’t even suggest any rishtay anymore… and the concept of try b4 u buy is catching on…

    ANd yes missy to your question I am married and always looking for the next oppurtunity as to say… do I not feel the guilt of it being some1s daugter or sister,,,I guess not..I dont have much respect for them who give it up on 1st meeting…I quite frankly I dont think like that…

    Missy I used to be like you…all traditional..My 1st partner was my wife…lost our Virginity together..but the urge to see what other women are like got better of me…I just love the first kiss..the way they moan/scream etc..you women are all different…and I love just being with some1 new..

    So answer me this…can you still have the butterflies..afters years of marriage…and please be honest..I know asian women make crap up x

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