The Real Me….Who Are You?

Posted on 11. Oct, 2010 by in Missy

missy d,missy dee,missyd,radio,presenterDo you know I think I have shot myself in the foot by deciding to have and maintain my own blog on www.missyd.com! When I first started it I was really excited, and now I am even more excited due to all the publicity and love that it receives. So thank you and bless you for that. Why did I say I have felt like I have shot myself in the foot starting this up? Well you see I sometimes have to think really hard about what to write and not what to write!

 I was told a blog is yours. The person who owns it has the right to write and say what they want. That excited me. To some extent that is what I have done in my career in radio and has made me popular as a presenter! Often people would tell me the reason they loved me on the radio and as a presenter, is because I was ‘real’ and there were no pretences with me. I just said it how it was. This was a good thing and also a bad thing. Trust me. I know the consequences of both! I have sometimes been too honest and ‘real’ for my own good.

 So there have been many times I’ve sat here and wrote straight from the heart and though there is no way that I can’t put that up on my blog, and so don’t and go with something completely different. But then I think that is me, so why shouldn’t I? But usually sense kicks in and I do what I think is less offensive to the world and society.

I am going to try and paint a picture for you, for you to kind of understand the person that I am. I am a public person. I am on the radio, and many of you know me from my radio personality and have loved that person. You know loud and dead proud and happy and bubbly! Thank you for that. But ‘off-air’ there is a different side to me that most people do not see. Don’t worry it’s not weird and I’m just as normal as you! I guess some of the real me, you have encountered on the radio, and I have been told not to get so emotional on-air. But I always though why should I pretend to be somebody that I am not?! Do not get me wrong, I am not fake on the radio, I just try not to be so ‘real’. The reason for this is that like I said, it can and has got me into all sorts of trouble ‘off’ and ‘on’-air.

You see, I am a very open and real person. An intense person. I am extremely emotional. I can be very deep. I can be very hard to understand. I am really not your ‘average’ kind of person. But I think that most people in entertainment have this double-life and have an element of different-ness in them. Otherwise I don’t think they would want to be so much in the public eye (or public ear in my case!). I have to admit that I do love who I am. I wouldn’t change me for the world. But sometimes it takes others around me a hell of a long time to understand me. Sometimes they just never do! But that’s ok, because I am who I am! I just follow my heart and do what I think is right in ‘My World’.

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Usually when people first meet me, after a while of knowing me they say that when they first met me, they thought I would be so hard to get along with. They found me unapproachable and not someone that was easy going. After a few days with me, they realised how wrong they were! With me, you get what I am. I will give you 100% of me or 0% of me. Nothing in between. If you are lucky enough to be offered the 100% to me, then I will go out of my way to give you and do for you anything that I possibly can in life to ensure you are happy and well looked after. I love and give unconditionally and will die for those who I love and care for. That’s just me. To many it may seem over the top, and I did at one point in my life think ‘am I weird’? “Doesn’t everyone operate like me?” Thank the Lord, I found a few people that are like me! Not a lot I must admit, but have come across others in my life that do understand how I am like this and why I am like this, and they are exactly the same, and they love being them too.

I don’t know if it’s maybe the best way in life, because I get hurt way too often as a result of being the person that I am. But I like being who I am and wouldn’t want to change me for the world. Why? Well I would rather be loving, giving, caring, sharing, deep and intense without holding back (with the added sarcastic sense of humour, confusion, comedian side and a sprinkling of entertainment), then someone who is not.

I am who I am and proud of who I am.  And anyway who makes up the rules?? Be real to yourself and just be you! A friend of mine used to always say, “just be you”. So I was and always have been. Each time I tried to be who others wanted me to be, thingsalways didn’t seem to go right. But hey sometimes just being being has also had others up in arms and they would just never get me and the way I think, work, operate and live in ‘My World’. I think everyone has ‘a World’ and as long as you are happy to be in that world then good for you!

So who are you? How would you describe you? Have you the nerve to spill all here and be honest and truthful? I always feel that just by being honest and truthful to yourself and to the world, it kind of cleanses the heart and soul. So don’t hold back. Who are the hell are you? x

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8 Responses to “The Real Me….Who Are You?”

  1. natasha khan

    11. Oct, 2010

    Firstly would just like to say thank you, for your honesty especially living in this world where we hav been trained to conceal and hide our true emotions, I suppose it has something to do with having the upper hand but the sad thing is that if u spend all ur time trying to get the upperhand in a relationship then when do u get the time to enjoy and feel the truth and so I would agree and say be ur self and stop the pretense, if u feell something display it and say it!!!

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  2. Rupak Kaur

    11. Oct, 2010

    Don’t ever change. Ur just perfect as u r!

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  3. Missy Dee

    11. Oct, 2010

    @Natasha. Thank you. I am sometimes too honest I have been told in the past, but yeh its good to just say it. Sometimes it can be too much but I cant help who I am. I have lost a few for being too honest. But I know I have done no wrong by being honest. Its not about having the upper hand…its just about being real. Not having to please others or society or your family. Just follow your heart and mind. How you are is not wrong as long as you are not hurting people. Thats all that matters x

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  4. Missy Dee

    11. Oct, 2010

    @Rupak Ahhhh Thank you sweetness. I do try!

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  5. hina

    11. Oct, 2010

    Honesty is the best policy, but I’m scared of the moment people, thoses individuals who stick around when they have something to gain, and once they have sucked out all the postive energy and they see that their is nothing more they can gain they move on, but in the process while they are extracting your life and soul, they want you to open up and tell them your thoughts, desires and you do that Because you trust them, then thoses individual who u have been clean and honest with become moment people who simply move the next target, so why trust,why not hide behind a poker face and be free from moment people!

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  6. Missy Dee

    11. Oct, 2010

    Hina I have encountered ‘moment’ people who live for the moment. I think as long as you are ture and your heart is pure then you do what you think is right. These moment people are happy just for the ‘moment’…trust me you will be happier in the long term. Nah no poker face required – just a big, true loving heart. Being a true person is so much harder than being ‘moment’ person…but the long term rewards are so much bigger and better. Plus hey remember we all end up in the same place and its all being recorded by the man upstairs! Smile you’re on GOD camera x

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  7. jagz

    11. Oct, 2010

    Hmmmm not sure about all this moment people stuff, but I think to be honest u hve got to be happy and know who u are as a person, people today I must admit have so many different faces that it hard work keepin track of them all, the best thing is to be comfortable with in ur own skin and the rest will follow!

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  8. ruby malik

    11. Oct, 2010

    My mum has always said to keep life in prespective and she always describes the jouney of life as a funfair, its an evening out with excitment, bright lghts,entertainment but when its time to go home (life ends) what are u left with? Use the time we have on earth to be kind and strive to be that goood person we all want to be, then when we make it to the promised land the excitement, brightlights and entertainment will be so much more rewarding!

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